Spoiling me is entirely optional- it sounds cheesy but our time together is the gift.  I’m including ideas for trifles and baubles not so much because I expect you to bring me anything but because you can get a sense of someone’s personality from what they like.  That aside, most people delight to thoughtful surprises, and I am no exception. I would love to effusively thank you!

If you want to bring along something for us to share, I love fruit or cheese, and don’t much care for chocolate or sweets.  I prefer dry, mineral-driven wines and bubbly or a pilsner, and if I’m at a proper bar I’ll take a Boulevardier. I adore flowers and plants: peonies, sunflowers, hydrangea, tulips, gladiolus, whatever you want to surprise me with! I love painting, photography and all performance, from a basement poetry reading to your favorite arena. Museum and gallery hopping can lead to surprisingly intimate conversations.

For a treat from afar, gift cards are a great way to go.  Uber/Amazon/Intermix/Maria Tash are delightful choices.  I also have a wishlist filled out *here* and *here*.  You will learn that I have a near pathological interest in sparkly earrings, lush bedding and plants.

If you’re thinking that you’d like to be there for the unwrapping I dearly love lingerie, and could list so many treasured makers.  Fleur de Mal, Kiki de Montparnasse and Cosabella are my favorites, but I have pieces by AP, Huit, HB, Edge o’ Beyond . . .  Please don’t hesitate to ask if you’d like to see a variety.  Size 6, 34C, small or medium dress (but I take a large knicker because I hate being pinched❤️️).

More wild card things that while less sexy are dearest to my heart?  Are all about movement, adventure and creation.  I love being out on the water, and am a moderately OK sailor, excellent swimmer, and half decent SCUBA diver. I am petrified of sharks so I’d like to go on shark dives (familiarity breeds appreciation, ime). I am also a very poor surfer! Which means I must practice.   I love ballet, theater, the NBA and WNBA: there are always tickets I am considering.  Flying lessons, ski excursions, bare boat charters, kayaking, backpacking, biking a new country- my most treasured possessions are memories.  I want to make more of them.

If we really get to know each other: I am always working on something. Those who help me achieve my visions live in the warmest part of my heart.